When we speak of sexual desire or libido, we cannot generalize, because men and women experience it differently. Studies indicate that sexual desire of women is less direct and more difficult to identify. Read on, maybe this will explain some behaviors that do not understand your partner.
I remember once I was in a college class, and the teacher asked what we thought during the day. Most of my mates started with "sex". Women, however, had other things in mind, without ruling out the sex of course, but say it was not the first. However, I remember thinking it was evident that men have a more "direct" sexual desire to speak. And indeed, social psychologists at the University of Florida have found that men are more aroused spontaneously and have many more sexual fantasies than women.
For us, though we really like a man, there must be a number of factors that play in favor for us to wake up the libido. For more sexual attraction there, if he did something that hurt us, we cannot concentrate all the pleasures of the bed. Women, in short, we need to have some kind of emotional connection to have sex. Of course, there are always exceptions and sexual desire also it depends on each person.
Is it true that men have a stronger sex drive than women? Many studies have shown that is not only stronger, but, as I said, much more direct, or "point". In contrast, female sexual desire is influenced by feelings and also biological, cultural and social factors. Say, that's a little more complex.
There are some theories related to sexual desire or libido in men and women. Are they false or true? Let's see….
• Men think more about sex and seek more frequently.
Right! Researchers at the University of Chicago who have studied for years male sexual patterns confirmed that most adult men under 60 think at least once a day about sex. While only a quarter of women report this frequency.
Statistically, men want more sex, ever. Therefore, they are more likely to seek casual sex and sex with multiple partners. They are also more willing to pay for sex (prostitution) than women. In addition, they masturbate more frequently.
• The road to reach sexual satisfaction is different for men and women.
Right! To us, we like to seduce us. The great seducers of history, no matter if they were good - looking or not, had something in common: the gift of gab. Women sex comes to them by the ears. For us, there needs to be a context, a frame, a romance, a mystery. The road to sex is, therefore, a bit more complex than walking men. Women need to talk, connect and then have sex to achieve intimacy.
For them is reversed. Sex is the connection. This does not mean that they do not put an emotional ingredient to the matter. It's just different. Sex is the language through which men express their emotional vulnerability, is the way established intimacy.
• The female sexual desire is influenced by biological, cultural and social factors.
Right! Perhaps this is due to the predominant role that men in society, but it seems that has more to do with biological factors. The man wants to spread his seed, woman is more careful when choosing a mate because she knows she can get pregnant and needs to trust the man as someone who will be there to raise children and provide for the family. In other words, biology determines some of the reasons to have sex.
In several studies, it was found that women who go to church are much more conservative when sex; that women with a high educational level are riskier and released when making love; that women are more influenced by society and taboos.
As you can see, the differences in sexual desire are quite gendered . Perhaps this information will be useful to understand how the opposite sex behaves.
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